Dear Parents struggling through the early weeks with your new baby,
Hang in there! You are going through one of the most challenging periods of your life. If you just had your first baby, your life abruptly changed from freedom and time to not even fitting in a simple shower some days. If you already had one or more children, you may feel stretched beyond your limits and wondering how to meet the needs of one more person.
It can feel like this is your new life and it will never change ever again. I remember when my first son Henry was a newborn, I felt like I would never get to do all the things I used to love doing, like sleep for example. I'd never get to go out to restaurants with my friends, or have parties, or read a book, or have a clean house. For you, the things you are missing might be different, but the fear is the same.
And even better, all those things I never thought I'd do ever again, I can do all of them! Not every day, because my kids still need a lot from me, mostly driving them to all their hockey practices and making meals (did you know kids eat like 5 times a day EVERY day?), but I finally have time for myself and it's amazing.
Moms and Dads, you are doing an amazing job whether you can believe that right now or not. Let go of the things that are making you more stressed, like pressure from grandparents, family, friends and books that insist you must parent a certain way. Let go of the ridiculous American notion that you must do it all mere weeks or months after giving birth. Let the house be messy, order take-out, ask for help, and know that this phase will pass, and before you know it your children will let you sleep in and when you wake up you'll have an email from my six-year-old saying "Henry is licin me."